The path to being unreasonably happy. Happiness is a choice of life. And this is a reality, not a sensationalist headline. It is true that certain vital circumstances can hinder our well-being in a moment. But in general terms, as a predominant mood, as an attitude towards life and as a thermometer of personal satisfaction, happiness is decided, sought and built.
Happiness makes us even physically stronger
What does happiness depend on? And, what is more important, what can we do to be happier? This that I propose next is the first and the most indispensable of all the steps you have to give to feel calmer, more satisfied, more at ease and happier.
Say goodbye to your fears to be happier
Happiness as emotion is defined as the absence of fear. And to face your fears is a personal work that only you can do and of which only you are responsible. Unfortunately, many of your fears, like many of our fears, have been living with you since time immemorial. It is possible that you feel absolutely incapable of identifying at what point of the road they began to accompany you some of the fears that today go with you everywhere. Moreover, you may not even be aware of many of your fears because, simply, you have internalized them. They are part of your belief system, they go unnoticed. But, in reality, they exert a great influence on your day to day and determine many of your decisions.
Where do fears appear from?
That’s why I want to propose a small exercise so you can identify them and banish them. My goal is to free you from fear to feel happier. And for that, we are going to dive into some of your most basic beliefs. Read these ideas that we usually have about the world around us and see if you recognize yourself in any of them. All symbolize distrust and insecurity that, through fear, limit us and condition our mood. All of them make it difficult for us to occupy our place in the world in the most comfortable way possible. If you recognize yourself in any of these five ideas that prevent you from being happy, read immediately the keys to refute them:
Ask yourself this every morning and bet on happiness
Why this irrational belief and it is better than I get rid of it? No matter how hard your childhood has been or what you have had to live; now you decide what you want to do with your life and how you want to live it. If the change was not possible, the psychotherapy consultations would not be full. The past is important but from rationality, you can work so that your present and your future (that is, the ‘past’ of ‘tomorrow’) are better and more satisfactory. Instead of letting you get carried away automatically by old habits, it will be necessary for you to question everything that prevents you from reaching your goals. Rebelling against this idea is only the beginning.