Stress is one of the most pervasive and invasive problems nowadays. It kills, upsets, poisons, and destabilizes many people. The actual reality is that is not possible to completely alleviate or control it, but there are incredible internal powers we can use to make it less harmful.

we have two types of stress and they are good and bad stress. Now Good stress helps us to be more open, move forward, strive hard to do our best, and creates excitement and need for accomplishment – if achievable.

Bad stress, on the other hand, is often caused by unrealistic expectations of us and others. It normally leads to convergent thinking, protectiveness, isolation, and drawback. There is a sense of lack of self-control. Here are some valuable recommendations for reducing stress:

Develop vital knowledge about it. Read, discuss, and research it. Carry out an in-depth analysis of what stress is all about and try to understand what you are dealing with. Recognize efforts, accomplishments, and improvements in light of realistic performance and expectations. There is a limit to what every one of us can accommodate. Try to know yours. Being unrealistic creates stress.

Find and engage in challenging and exciting activities that test abilities without the commonly associated pressures. Everything doesn’t have to be competitive, win-lose success-failure. In your daily life, Learn to exercise patience with yourself and others. No one is perfect we all make mistakes. All people are not equal so don’t always expect things to work the same time for everybody. Give people a break to avoid stressing yourself out.

Channel your mentality toward finding solutions to problems rather than laying blame. The solution is more important than the problem! Working toward solutions actually reduces stress because you acknowledge in your mind that things are indeed moving forward.

Discover within yourself how to be safely and extravagantly creative. Cultivate the habit of doing things for fun. No stress. Distinguish between hard-and-fast rules and those that can be transformed. Change what you can and go with the flow on the others. Why bother pushing immovable objects? Remember you are not an irresistible force.

Learn when and how to share creative perceptions, insights, and thoughts appropriately with others. Avoid creating unnecessary stress for yourself by trying to live other people’s lives along with your own. Help others in distress and, while doing so, share in the experience. Show others what is and is not in their power i.e. their energy and attitudes but not outcomes.

Allow and accept strong emotional responses within limits from a spectator point of view. When other people yell or get very annoyed, notice if it is about you as a person, your work or maybe another thing that is external. Identifying the target of the emotions can help you keep your stress level in check.

Decide in beforehand if you would like certain kind of people to be part of your life. Stay away from toxic and extremely negative people. Now come to think of it are there “boring” people in your life that are boring? Try to find out what produces incompatibility between you and others. Set appropriate expectations for work and achievement. Work, play, relationships, free time all have equal value. An imbalance produces stress.

Decide on appropriate goals in your life and work based on an honest assessment of your strengths and weaknesses. It is easy to stress yourself needlessly out. I could still recall purchasing one of those office chairs that requires that you assemble it yourself. When all my effort to assemble, it was unsuccessful within the short time I thought it would take. Frustration set in, I became very upset and contemplated throwing the chair in the trash can.

Build friendly relationships with gifted people in different fields. Often because of their professionalism, they do things at a very high level of expertise and competency. Figure out where you stand in relating to them. Think about the stress levels they must have been through. Learn to discern what in life is important and what is irrelevant in the whole scheme of things. This help eliminates a decent amount of stress.

Accepting and loving the way children do. The innocence and child-like (not childish) approach to living reduces stress. Try not to be rude to people and avoid displaying inappropriate behavior or abusive words. Someone or something might tempt you to become offended and requires you to pour out your anger, but just calm down and have a rethink do you really need to wind yourself up like that?

Find opportunities for silence, contemplation, reflection, meditation. Silence is not something to fear and shouldn’t be seen as been boring. Silence accounts for the largest percentage of the world we are living today. Explore it as you would do in case of other things that seem like a mystery to you. Silence is just as important as the noise and activities that occupy the rest of your day, De-stress in the quiet and silence that is between every atom in the universe.

Participate in sporting activities and other physical activities in different environments. The energizing impact is exhilarating and brings about a well-being mindset. Always remember that is not possible to eliminate stress from our lives because we do need some in our lives in order to produce a positive dynamic tension. It can be placed under our power rather than out of our control.